Dating can be hard when you’re overweight, but you have to remember that it doesn’t necessarily have to be. Both BBW women and big handsome men have a hard time dealing with prejudice, but it sometimes seems that the majority of dating advice is aimed at females. That, however, doesn’t mean that large men have it all figured out; on the contrary. They also need to learn how to boost their confidence and ‘survive’ in the competitive world of online dating.
Here are some useful dating tips for big guys who are looking for love:
1. Don’t despair and don’t give up
Large men often think that they will never find the woman of their dreams and that their physical appearance automatically disqualifies them from dating. This is far from true. Apart from the fact that many women prefer larger men, it’s important to remember that love is about so much more than just looks.
2. Accept your body
Smart people always say that you have to love yourself in order to be loved by someone else, and we couldn’t agree more. Even if you do lose a ton of weight, there’s no guarantee that you are going to look like Hugh Jackman. The best thing you can do for yourself is to learn how to accept your looks and learn how to live with it.
3. Clothes are important
So many overweight people pick clothes that are too big and loose in order to conceal their weight, and we can’t stress enough how wrong that is. First of all, baggy clothes are only going to draw attention to your appearance, and everyone will be aware that you’re trying to hide things. Instead of wearing clothes that don’t fit you, you have to learn how to accentuate the positive. Just as BBW women know how to dress, so should big handsome men.
4. Stay healthy
Changing your diet will not only improve your health but also your mental outlook, immune system, energy level, skin-tone, and hair quality. People who eat healthy foods and exercise regularly tend to be more confident and have a higher self-esteem.
5. Don’t be ashamed of yourself
Many large men make jokes about their bodies in order to prevent other people from insulting them. Instead of betraying a sense of insecurity, don’t even bring up you weight at all. And remember that there is a thin line between a good sense of humor and self-deprecating humor. While the former is attractive, the latter can only do you harm.
6. Ignore the haters
Let’s face it, there will always be people who are going to make fun of you, men who will insult you, and women who will ignore you. Although this may hurt your feelings from time to time, it’s actually a benefit in disguise – you won’t have to waste your time on people who don’t respect you. In the end, the opinions of people who find pleasure in insulting others should not interest you. Why should you care about what they think?
7. Rejection is a part of dating
Rejection doesn’t necessarily have to be a bad thing. Every woman who ignores you or reacts badly to you is just one more person you don’t need to waste your time on.
Look: you are going to get rejected, but rejection happens to everyone, overweight or skinny, tall or short, rich or poor. It’s just an inherent part of dating, be that on BBW dating sites or somewhere else. Instead of giving up, start a conversation with another woman, go on more dates, and meet more people. Who knows, maybe the love of your life is just around the corner?